141. Get On The Dance Floor
In order to get good at something, you have to do it.
So rude and humiliating, right? HUGE UGH.
It’s so much more appealing to imagine just naturally being good at things.
But that’s generally not how being good at things works.
If you want to become a better public speaker, you have to say words in front of humans, even if it’s just a few trusted friends at first.
If you want to improve your sales skills, you have to try selling things to people, even if just start with selling your family on having Thai food for dinner.
If you want to become a better dancer, you have to move your body to some music, even if the dance floor you start with is literally your living room.
And that’s not all.
After you try the thing (and this is often the hard part), you need to praise and celebrate your effort.
Trying things can feel yucky. Vulnerable. Embarrassing.
I get it. I, too, have tried things, and I, too, have felt all of the above.
And that’s exactly why you need the praise and celebration.
Trying is how you get good at things.
But it can feel yucky.
So the solution is to see how much courage you’re demonstrating by trying anyways.
The solution is to see that you’re getting closer to your desired outcome, even if some of that getting closer feels uncomfortable.
And guess what, the more you get on the proverbial dance floor AND then praise and celebrate yourself, the easier it gets to do so.
Courage begets more courage.
Trying and celebrating builds the muscles for more trying (and more celebrating!!).
And that’s how you become a better public speaker, get better at sales, become a better dancer, and achieve lots of other goals.
That’s how you build a wildly satisfying life and career. Step by step, starting with just trying a little something in the direction of your goal and praising the sh*t out of yourself for your efforts. Then repeat, repeat, repeat.
Progress happens so much faster this way. Courage builds. And you develop a skillset you can apply to literally anything.
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WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:
Why it often feels a lot more comfortable sitting on the sidelines.
What happens when we judge and shame ourselves for being imperfect.
The reason your brain might be resistant to you getting on the dance floor.
How to use the metaphor of getting on the dance floor to build a life and career that delights you!
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FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:
This week we're talking about getting on the metaphorical dance floor.
You are listening to Love Your Job Before You Leave It, the podcast for ambitious, high-achieving women who are ready to stop feeling stressed about work and kiss burnout goodbye forever. Whether you’re starting a business or staying in your day job, this show will give you the coaching and guidance you need to start loving your work today. Here’s your host, career coach Kori Linn.
Hello, hello, hello. Happy Wednesday. I just got back recently from a trip to Ohio. By the time y'all hear this, I'll have been back for a while. It was an intense trip y'all. I wrote about this on Instagram. So you might have already seen it. But like we had issues with our rental car where we got the rental car, and we just like ran into a bunch of issues with it until we took it back.
Then on the way back, our flight got like delayed a little and delayed a little and delayed a little and then delayed a lot. We were going to miss our connection. Then they rebooked us, and then the flight got delayed so much we were gonna miss the next connection and probably end up having to get stuck somewhere or stay tonight.
Alex Luchini and I were like not about it. She started looking up different flights home. I talked to the people with the airline that we were on, and there was like no other flights that they could get us on really. So then we just looked on the other airlines, and we found a different flight. We booked a different flight home, which kind of made me feel a real adult in a way. It did cost us some more money. We were able to get a partial refund on the flights that we didn't take because they had been delayed.
So word to the wise, if you have a flight and it gets delayed and you don't want to wait and take it, sometimes you can book a different flight with a different airline and then get a partial refund. It was only partial because we were in Ohio. So we had flown to Ohio on our flights. Those ones were fine. It was the getting back to Sacramento from Ohio that got messed up.
So it was pretty cool to be okay well, we don't want to have this happen the way it's happening. So what are we going to do about it? How are we going to solve that? How are we going to figure it out? That's sort of what happened with the rental car too. You can go read the whole story about the rental car on my Instagram.
I also wrote about it in my newsletter. If you're not on my newsletter, you should get on there. It's pretty fucking phenomenal. I was talking about how things don't always go according to plan. You can still create really wonderful experiences for yourself and hit your goals and get what you want in life, even when things don't go according to plan.
If that's something you're interested in, and it probably is because you probably have some goals and things you want to do, and you live in life. It's really not always doing what you want it to. I have a free group coaching call coming up. I just had one at the end of June. So that did go out to my newsletter list. But I don't think I was able to get any podcast announcements about it because I had recorded so many in advance. Sorry about that.
Again, if you really want all of the opportunities for free coaching, you should be on the newsletter list. But the free coaching call for July is going to be July 25 at 12:00 p.m. Pacific time, and you can sign up for that via the link in my Instagram bio. Then we can also put a link in the show notes.
Okay, so you should sign up for that. Because like I said, life is full of rude interruptions, and you still want to achieve your goals and get shit done and create your magical satisfying as fuck life and career. That free group coaching call can help you do it.
All right, but enough about that. Let's talk about this week's topic. This week's topic, I'm calling it get on the dance floor. Basically I was coaching one of my wonderful clients. We were talking about a situation that they have been having. One of the things that we're coaching on is sort of their social interactions.
So they had gone to CrossFit and said some words out of their face to somebody and then they didn't really like the words they had said. They felt awkward about it. So, of course, like many of us, they went home and just couldn't stop thinking about the words that they said and feeling so self-judgmental. Again, this is so common. So nothing against this client that they're dealing with that. So many people deal with this.
So this client wants to become more articulate, more eloquent, more engaging in conversation with people. So one of the things I was telling them is that them going to CrossFit and saying some words out of their face hole, even if it wasn't the most eloquent words they've ever said, is actually so much closer to them being eloquent than if they had not gone or if they had not said anything.
The metaphor that I was using, so I country dance, as a lot of y'all know. When you're country dancing, there's line dancing, and there's two-step. For this metaphor, we're going to use the line dancing, but it could be either.
Sometimes when you're learning a new line dance or when you're new to country dancing, you get out there and you don't know the moves. That's okay. Right. But it can feel really embarrassing. It can feel really awkward, and I've experienced that. Because when I first started country dancing, I was quite bad, y'all.
This person also dances. So the idea is like if someone next to you is dancing, and they're trying. They're getting some of the moves right, but they're not getting all the moves right. You probably wouldn't be super rude to them and mean them the way you would to yourself inside your own head about when you say something awkward. Instead, you'd probably be like oh you're out here. You're trying. You're doing it. You're getting some of the moves right. If you keep trying, you're gonna figure it out. You're gonna probably get really good at this if you keep showing up.
So this is true for so many things, right. By being on the dance floor, you're halfway there. So if you are sitting on the side of the dance floor and never getting out there and even trying the moves, you're not going to get better at the moves. You're not going to learn the dance. You're not going to become an amazing dancer by sitting on the sidelines and not trying.
But a lot of times it can feel a lot more comfortable to sit on the sidelines and to not try. It can feel so excruciating and vulnerable and humiliating and embarrassing to go out there and be seen being imperfect. But going out there and being imperfect is how you get better at shit, right?
So that's what I was saying to this client. I was if you want to become someone who's more articulate, if you want to become someone who's more eloquent, if you want to become someone who converses with ease, if you want to become someone who has these engaging conversations. First, you need to learn to appreciate the you who showed up to CrossFit and said some words out of their face hole, even if it wasn't the most articulate, eloquent, engaging words ever. Because that person is on the way to becoming engaging and eloquent by showing up and opening their face and saying words. Okay.
So I think there's also a second layer here of even the most eloquent, engaging, articulate people in the world aren't that all the time. A lot of us, sometimes we’re super articulate and eloquent and tell beautiful stories that are well thought through and well-paced. Sometimes we're just blah, blah, blah. We just say whatever comes to mind. I mean, I know I do.
I really try to model that on the podcast. I definitely sit down with some ideas about what I'm going to talk to you all about. I also just sit down like okay, let me just authentically think this through and walk this through and converse with you the way I would if we were together. I purposely try not to make it overly polished and overly shiny, right.
So the whole concept here is getting on the dance floor is a good thing. It's also the thing your brain is most likely to beat you up about. Because once you're on the dance floor, you're going to be imperfect because that's what we all are as human beings. On the dance floor not only are we imperfect, but people can see us being imperfect. It's so rude. Listen, I get it.
So this metaphor is very similar to if you've heard Brené Brown talk about being in the arena. This is a very similar metaphor to that. But I really liked the dance floor metaphor because I dance, and I've never been in a fighting arena. I think thinking about it as dancing is so much more in line with kind of who I want to be as a person versus thinking about it as being in an arena fighting people is not in line with who I want to be as a person.
Okay, but so this metaphor applies to everything. I think what it really invites us to consider is what if we're not supposed to be good at things? That probably, you're like record scratch. What the fuck? What is she talking about? What if we're not supposed to be good at things?
But listen, I want to be good at things too. I'm working on being good at things all the time. But I mean when you are learning something new especially or when you're building a skill that you don't already have, what if the number one immediate goal is not to be good at it? What if it's just to do it, just to get your ass on that dance floor and to love yourself while you try? What if getting on the dance floor and loving yourself while you try is actually what gets you to being good at things?
Listen, it is. I have personal experience in this because when I started country dancing, like I said before, I was not very good at it. Really, really. I'm not being humble. I was outright terrible. I couldn't hear the beat in the music. I grew up kind of always with the narrative that I was clumsy and awkward. I used to bump into doorways and tables a lot, but I loved it.
This was way before coaching. So it wasn't I wasn’t like oh, I'm gonna love myself through this. This was sort of a beautiful accidental teaching that I came to understand later. I went country dancing, and I just loved it. I loved it so much that the love I had for the activity was bigger than my desire to be good at it. That was very, very rare at that point in my life and honestly, probably still is.
Listen, I'm competitive. I like to be good at things. I've actually had to get coaching on how competitive I am at board games. I'm very competitive, and I like to be good at shit. But me loving country dancing and me allowing myself to love myself while I country danced badly meant I danced for years. Guess what? One day I started to hear the beat and the music. One day, well probably it wasn't just one day, but over a series of time, I became decent and then I became proficient and then I became good. Then I became pretty fucking good.
It was such a more pleasurable way of becoming good at something than the way we usually do it where it's dragging ourselves across hot coals and crushed up glass where we're just beating ourselves up. The other thing I said to my client was when we judge and shame ourselves for being human beings who are not perfect at things, it makes it so much harder to keep doing those things. It makes it so much more likely we're going to do those things badly in the future because we're cultivating so much anxiousness, so much shame, so much ugh about our abilities.
Versus when we're just willing to be imperfect on the dance floor, and when we're willing to see being on the dance floor is halfway there. When we’re willing to see being on the dance floor is what's going to move us towards our goal of being excellent at something or being eloquent, being articulate, being good at something then that makes it easier to keep fucking showing up. It makes it so much more pleasurable. When it's easier and more pleasurable to show up, guess what? We show up, and then we do get better.
So what I'm really selling you on here is the idea that you will get better at things faster if you find ways to love yourself and love the thing while you do it. It feels way fucking better y'all. Unless you're really deeply into the pain of judging yourself. That's, I don't know, some kind of turn on for you that you because I'm not here to kink shame anyone. If that's what you like, fucking have at it.
But if beating yourself up feels terrible, and you hate every second of it, you can stop. You're allowed to stop. I give you permission to stop. I invite you to stop. If what you want is to become good at something, you can. The guilt and shame and self-flagellation is not required.
Okay, so to review, the basic metaphor here is if there's something you want to be better at in your life or some kind of goal you want to achieve that you haven't achieved yet, every time you work on it, you feel excruciatingly vulnerable and humiliated. You're actually on the dance floor, and that's good news. Because when you're on the dance floor, that's where you need to be to get better at the thing. So you're actually closer to being excellent than you think you are.
If you can just give yourself credit for being on the dance floor, that's going to feel really yummy. If you can find ways to encourage yourself and kind of love yourself through it, then you're gonna get better much faster, and you're gonna have a much more enjoyable experience of the part where you're less good. Also give yourself permission to be a human being who sometimes is good at things and sometimes isn't because you're not a robot automaton who's always going to perform it peak level. That's not what we're doing here. Okay?
What if you're not supposed to be good at things? What if the point of trying is not to be good at things? What if the point of trying is to figure out something you want to be able to do and then you just do it and you let yourself through it, and you fucking lather, rinse, repeat, and you will become excellent at that thing. If you never become excellent, you'll probably have a lot more fun being un-excellent.
That's what life's all about anyways. We don't need to be actually excellent at everything to have a really good experience of it. This has actually been a really big lesson for me personally of like oh, I can just enjoy things I'm not good at.
Again, that story with me learning to dance really helped with that. But also, I just think about all the time when I can feel the craving desire in my body to be really good at something. I'm just like, I pause and I'm like why? What do you think that's gonna get you? Oh, you think that's gonna make you enjoy this? Well, you can just fucking shortcut and choose to enjoy it right now. Being good at it's actually not required.
That may break your brain a little. So just kind of sit and think about that. For anything where you want to be excellent at it already, what do you think that's gonna get for you? Is there a shortcut where you can have that now? You can still work on being excellent. I'm not opposed to excellence at all. But excellence is just excellence. It's not going to do anything for you. A lot of the things you think it's going to give you, you can just give yourself now and then you can just decide if you still want to pursue excellence if you already have all those things.
Sometimes you probably will because it can be fun to be excellent. Sometimes you probably won't because you actually never cared about that anyways. You just wanted to have fun and love yourself. That's available now.
If you're having trouble enjoying the fun and enjoying being on the dance floor, if you're having trouble getting on the dance floor at all, if you're having trouble enjoying the dance floor, if you're having trouble staying on the dance floor, again, we have that free group coaching call coming upon July 25, and I would love to have you join and get some coaching from me about that. All right, that's what I have for you all this week. Have a wonderful week, and I will talk to you next time. Bye.
Thank you for listening to Love Your Job Before You Leave It. We'll have another episode for you next week. In the meantime, if you're feeling super fired up, head on over to korilinn.com for more guidance and resources.
You are listening to Love Your Job Before You Leave It, the podcast for ambitious, high-achieving women who are ready to stop feeling stressed about work and kiss burnout goodbye forever. Whether you’re starting a business or staying in your day job, this show will give you the coaching and guidance you need to start loving your work today. Here’s your host, career coach Kori Linn.
Hello, hello, hello. Happy Wednesday. I just got back recently from a trip to Ohio. By the time y'all hear this, I'll have been back for a while. It was an intense trip y'all. I wrote about this on Instagram. So you might have already seen it. But like we had issues with our rental car where we got the rental car, and we just like ran into a bunch of issues with it until we took it back.
Then on the way back, our flight got like delayed a little and delayed a little and delayed a little and then delayed a lot. We were going to miss our connection. Then they rebooked us, and then the flight got delayed so much we were gonna miss the next connection and probably end up having to get stuck somewhere or stay tonight.
Alex Luchini and I were like not about it. She started looking up different flights home. I talked to the people with the airline that we were on, and there was like no other flights that they could get us on really. So then we just looked on the other airlines, and we found a different flight. We booked a different flight home, which kind of made me feel a real adult in a way. It did cost us some more money. We were able to get a partial refund on the flights that we didn't take because they had been delayed.
So word to the wise, if you have a flight and it gets delayed and you don't want to wait and take it, sometimes you can book a different flight with a different airline and then get a partial refund. It was only partial because we were in Ohio. So we had flown to Ohio on our flights. Those ones were fine. It was the getting back to Sacramento from Ohio that got messed up.
So it was pretty cool to be okay well, we don't want to have this happen the way it's happening. So what are we going to do about it? How are we going to solve that? How are we going to figure it out? That's sort of what happened with the rental car too. You can go read the whole story about the rental car on my Instagram.
I also wrote about it in my newsletter. If you're not on my newsletter, you should get on there. It's pretty fucking phenomenal. I was talking about how things don't always go according to plan. You can still create really wonderful experiences for yourself and hit your goals and get what you want in life, even when things don't go according to plan.
If that's something you're interested in, and it probably is because you probably have some goals and things you want to do, and you live in life. It's really not always doing what you want it to. I have a free group coaching call coming up. I just had one at the end of June. So that did go out to my newsletter list. But I don't think I was able to get any podcast announcements about it because I had recorded so many in advance. Sorry about that.
Again, if you really want all of the opportunities for free coaching, you should be on the newsletter list. But the free coaching call for July is going to be July 25 at 12:00 p.m. Pacific time, and you can sign up for that via the link in my Instagram bio. Then we can also put a link in the show notes.
Okay, so you should sign up for that. Because like I said, life is full of rude interruptions, and you still want to achieve your goals and get shit done and create your magical satisfying as fuck life and career. That free group coaching call can help you do it.
All right, but enough about that. Let's talk about this week's topic. This week's topic, I'm calling it get on the dance floor. Basically I was coaching one of my wonderful clients. We were talking about a situation that they have been having. One of the things that we're coaching on is sort of their social interactions.
So they had gone to CrossFit and said some words out of their face to somebody and then they didn't really like the words they had said. They felt awkward about it. So, of course, like many of us, they went home and just couldn't stop thinking about the words that they said and feeling so self-judgmental. Again, this is so common. So nothing against this client that they're dealing with that. So many people deal with this.
So this client wants to become more articulate, more eloquent, more engaging in conversation with people. So one of the things I was telling them is that them going to CrossFit and saying some words out of their face hole, even if it wasn't the most eloquent words they've ever said, is actually so much closer to them being eloquent than if they had not gone or if they had not said anything.
The metaphor that I was using, so I country dance, as a lot of y'all know. When you're country dancing, there's line dancing, and there's two-step. For this metaphor, we're going to use the line dancing, but it could be either.
Sometimes when you're learning a new line dance or when you're new to country dancing, you get out there and you don't know the moves. That's okay. Right. But it can feel really embarrassing. It can feel really awkward, and I've experienced that. Because when I first started country dancing, I was quite bad, y'all.
This person also dances. So the idea is like if someone next to you is dancing, and they're trying. They're getting some of the moves right, but they're not getting all the moves right. You probably wouldn't be super rude to them and mean them the way you would to yourself inside your own head about when you say something awkward. Instead, you'd probably be like oh you're out here. You're trying. You're doing it. You're getting some of the moves right. If you keep trying, you're gonna figure it out. You're gonna probably get really good at this if you keep showing up.
So this is true for so many things, right. By being on the dance floor, you're halfway there. So if you are sitting on the side of the dance floor and never getting out there and even trying the moves, you're not going to get better at the moves. You're not going to learn the dance. You're not going to become an amazing dancer by sitting on the sidelines and not trying.
But a lot of times it can feel a lot more comfortable to sit on the sidelines and to not try. It can feel so excruciating and vulnerable and humiliating and embarrassing to go out there and be seen being imperfect. But going out there and being imperfect is how you get better at shit, right?
So that's what I was saying to this client. I was if you want to become someone who's more articulate, if you want to become someone who's more eloquent, if you want to become someone who converses with ease, if you want to become someone who has these engaging conversations. First, you need to learn to appreciate the you who showed up to CrossFit and said some words out of their face hole, even if it wasn't the most articulate, eloquent, engaging words ever. Because that person is on the way to becoming engaging and eloquent by showing up and opening their face and saying words. Okay.
So I think there's also a second layer here of even the most eloquent, engaging, articulate people in the world aren't that all the time. A lot of us, sometimes we’re super articulate and eloquent and tell beautiful stories that are well thought through and well-paced. Sometimes we're just blah, blah, blah. We just say whatever comes to mind. I mean, I know I do.
I really try to model that on the podcast. I definitely sit down with some ideas about what I'm going to talk to you all about. I also just sit down like okay, let me just authentically think this through and walk this through and converse with you the way I would if we were together. I purposely try not to make it overly polished and overly shiny, right.
So the whole concept here is getting on the dance floor is a good thing. It's also the thing your brain is most likely to beat you up about. Because once you're on the dance floor, you're going to be imperfect because that's what we all are as human beings. On the dance floor not only are we imperfect, but people can see us being imperfect. It's so rude. Listen, I get it.
So this metaphor is very similar to if you've heard Brené Brown talk about being in the arena. This is a very similar metaphor to that. But I really liked the dance floor metaphor because I dance, and I've never been in a fighting arena. I think thinking about it as dancing is so much more in line with kind of who I want to be as a person versus thinking about it as being in an arena fighting people is not in line with who I want to be as a person.
Okay, but so this metaphor applies to everything. I think what it really invites us to consider is what if we're not supposed to be good at things? That probably, you're like record scratch. What the fuck? What is she talking about? What if we're not supposed to be good at things?
But listen, I want to be good at things too. I'm working on being good at things all the time. But I mean when you are learning something new especially or when you're building a skill that you don't already have, what if the number one immediate goal is not to be good at it? What if it's just to do it, just to get your ass on that dance floor and to love yourself while you try? What if getting on the dance floor and loving yourself while you try is actually what gets you to being good at things?
Listen, it is. I have personal experience in this because when I started country dancing, like I said before, I was not very good at it. Really, really. I'm not being humble. I was outright terrible. I couldn't hear the beat in the music. I grew up kind of always with the narrative that I was clumsy and awkward. I used to bump into doorways and tables a lot, but I loved it.
This was way before coaching. So it wasn't I wasn’t like oh, I'm gonna love myself through this. This was sort of a beautiful accidental teaching that I came to understand later. I went country dancing, and I just loved it. I loved it so much that the love I had for the activity was bigger than my desire to be good at it. That was very, very rare at that point in my life and honestly, probably still is.
Listen, I'm competitive. I like to be good at things. I've actually had to get coaching on how competitive I am at board games. I'm very competitive, and I like to be good at shit. But me loving country dancing and me allowing myself to love myself while I country danced badly meant I danced for years. Guess what? One day I started to hear the beat and the music. One day, well probably it wasn't just one day, but over a series of time, I became decent and then I became proficient and then I became good. Then I became pretty fucking good.
It was such a more pleasurable way of becoming good at something than the way we usually do it where it's dragging ourselves across hot coals and crushed up glass where we're just beating ourselves up. The other thing I said to my client was when we judge and shame ourselves for being human beings who are not perfect at things, it makes it so much harder to keep doing those things. It makes it so much more likely we're going to do those things badly in the future because we're cultivating so much anxiousness, so much shame, so much ugh about our abilities.
Versus when we're just willing to be imperfect on the dance floor, and when we're willing to see being on the dance floor is halfway there. When we’re willing to see being on the dance floor is what's going to move us towards our goal of being excellent at something or being eloquent, being articulate, being good at something then that makes it easier to keep fucking showing up. It makes it so much more pleasurable. When it's easier and more pleasurable to show up, guess what? We show up, and then we do get better.
So what I'm really selling you on here is the idea that you will get better at things faster if you find ways to love yourself and love the thing while you do it. It feels way fucking better y'all. Unless you're really deeply into the pain of judging yourself. That's, I don't know, some kind of turn on for you that you because I'm not here to kink shame anyone. If that's what you like, fucking have at it.
But if beating yourself up feels terrible, and you hate every second of it, you can stop. You're allowed to stop. I give you permission to stop. I invite you to stop. If what you want is to become good at something, you can. The guilt and shame and self-flagellation is not required.
Okay, so to review, the basic metaphor here is if there's something you want to be better at in your life or some kind of goal you want to achieve that you haven't achieved yet, every time you work on it, you feel excruciatingly vulnerable and humiliated. You're actually on the dance floor, and that's good news. Because when you're on the dance floor, that's where you need to be to get better at the thing. So you're actually closer to being excellent than you think you are.
If you can just give yourself credit for being on the dance floor, that's going to feel really yummy. If you can find ways to encourage yourself and kind of love yourself through it, then you're gonna get better much faster, and you're gonna have a much more enjoyable experience of the part where you're less good. Also give yourself permission to be a human being who sometimes is good at things and sometimes isn't because you're not a robot automaton who's always going to perform it peak level. That's not what we're doing here. Okay?
What if you're not supposed to be good at things? What if the point of trying is not to be good at things? What if the point of trying is to figure out something you want to be able to do and then you just do it and you let yourself through it, and you fucking lather, rinse, repeat, and you will become excellent at that thing. If you never become excellent, you'll probably have a lot more fun being un-excellent.
That's what life's all about anyways. We don't need to be actually excellent at everything to have a really good experience of it. This has actually been a really big lesson for me personally of like oh, I can just enjoy things I'm not good at.
Again, that story with me learning to dance really helped with that. But also, I just think about all the time when I can feel the craving desire in my body to be really good at something. I'm just like, I pause and I'm like why? What do you think that's gonna get you? Oh, you think that's gonna make you enjoy this? Well, you can just fucking shortcut and choose to enjoy it right now. Being good at it's actually not required.
That may break your brain a little. So just kind of sit and think about that. For anything where you want to be excellent at it already, what do you think that's gonna get for you? Is there a shortcut where you can have that now? You can still work on being excellent. I'm not opposed to excellence at all. But excellence is just excellence. It's not going to do anything for you. A lot of the things you think it's going to give you, you can just give yourself now and then you can just decide if you still want to pursue excellence if you already have all those things.
Sometimes you probably will because it can be fun to be excellent. Sometimes you probably won't because you actually never cared about that anyways. You just wanted to have fun and love yourself. That's available now.
If you're having trouble enjoying the fun and enjoying being on the dance floor, if you're having trouble getting on the dance floor at all, if you're having trouble enjoying the dance floor, if you're having trouble staying on the dance floor, again, we have that free group coaching call coming upon July 25, and I would love to have you join and get some coaching from me about that. All right, that's what I have for you all this week. Have a wonderful week, and I will talk to you next time. Bye.
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